Worldliness: Resisting the Seduction of a Fallen World

imagesOver the last month, I (Becca) have been reading the book Worldliness. I am on the last chapter and I have been so convicted, encouraged, and challenged by the Holy Spirit through this book! Some of the chapters include: God, My Heart, and Media (by Mr. Craig Cabiness), God, My Heart, and Music (By Mr. Bob Kauflin), God, My Heart, and Stuff (by Mr. Dave Harvey), and God, My Heart, and Clothes (by Mr. C.J. Mahaney).

So, the innominables is officially beginning our very first book club! This is how it is going to work. While we sort out the details we will have a drawing for a copy of Worldliness. I actually bought it on Sunday and it is ready to be given to the winner!

  1. To get you name entered once, send an email letting us know that you are participating in this club. Include your name, blog or website (if you have one), and your email address so we can contact you if you are the winner!
  2. To get you named entered twice, send us a testimony of how God has drawn you near and been working in you. If you are open, we would love to share these stories of God’s amazing grace throughout the following months.
  3. To get your name entered for the third time, spread the word! You can do this by referring others to this club, posting on your blog about it, etc. Then let us know by email or commenting.

Guys- you can join this group too!!! Please do the hard thing and be involved!!!!! We don’t desire for this to be just our thing, we want you to be a part of what God is doing!

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Also, if you ever have any suggestions or ideas for this blog, the email that I just listed is the best way to contact us other than commenting.

The drawing is now open and it will close at 12:00am on February 3rd, 2009. Please don’t wait until the last minute. Let us know as soon as you can so that we can prepare effectively.

Once the drawing is over, the book club will work something like this. We will have two weeks to read one chapter because there is a lot to cover and we don’t want to rush through it! So the first week we will have a testimony or something related to fighting worldliness. The next week we will post some questions that are in the back of the book and discuss them.

This study REALLY needs your input and involvement to be able to work! Please, PLEASE be involved! This book is SOOOOO good and it will be worth the time you invest in reading and studying it!

For the Glory of God!

Becca for the Innominables


Fighting Attraction: Selfless Love

When we are attracted to a guy, it is so easy to let our emotions take control. We might think that we must do something to get his attention. I find it amazing that so much sin could be revealed when I like a guy! Pride, selfishness, envy, discontentment, and anxiety to name a few!

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. – 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 ESV)

I wrote these two questions to evaluate our hearts on the matter of selfless love:

1. When the guy I like talks to any other girl, am I quick to be envious that he would talk to her instead of me? (Love Does Not Envy – 1 Corinthians 13:4)

2. Am I trusting God to provide what I need when I need it, or do I want things to happen when and how I desire them to? (Love does not insist on its own way – 1 Corinthians 13:5)

Are either one of these things true of you? I am guilty or both! They are many more questions you could ask yourself (read the verses from 1 Corinthians 13 again). We will never be able to be perfect in love. But, by the grace of God, we have the opportunity to learn what true love is now and put in into practice with our family and friends!

Let’s choose to love selflessly no matter the circumstances. This is a good time to learn now before we enter into marriage. I need to learn how to selflessly love my brother and sister. I must confess that I so often fall short of this but, God uses my shortcomings to remind me that I need HIM to help me! Another way is to watch others. Watch your parents and other married couples in the church. This is just one way to focus on others rather then focus on your desires and wants at the present time.

To echo a couple things that Bronte said in her post, it helps so much to share these things with your parents. They have been through crushes before and are wise as they are older than we are. It is also a good thing to remember that the guy you like is most likely going to be married to someone else. This often helps me! One last thing. Remember the work that Christ has done for you on the cross! He has shown the only perfect of selfless love! To Him be the Glory!

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.” -Galatians 5:22-23 (ESV)


Fighting Crushes: Self-control

We’ve decided to do a little “series” on crushes. And as I was praying about, this I felt led to share from a Christian standpoint what crushes are and why we need to fight against them. Here we go!

First of all,  having a crush is totally normal. You are not weird if you are attracted to a guy. Actually, to a certain extent crushes are a good thing. The attraction between a man and a woman is God-given, and therefore good (James 1:17). But crushes become wrong when we start to think about a certain person a lot and when we start fantasizing about that person. This is wrong because it’s having a lack of self-control. Proverbs 25:28 says, “A man without self-control is like a city broken down and left without walls.” This is a serious matter. When we lack self-control we leave ourselves open for all sorts of trouble. For example: if I keep thinking about a specific guy, if I dream about him and all that, and then I find out he is interested in someone else, I will be left heart-broken. Another thing my mom always reminds me is this (and it’s so helpful): the guy I’m attracted to is probably someone else’s future husband. That puts things in a whole new light! While he might not be married now he probably will be someday—and it most likely won’t be to me. This really stresses my need for self-control.

One thing I really want to encourage you ladies to do is talk to your parents if you find yourself falling for a guy. As teens our parents are our principle source of help and encouragement. There have been many instances when I feel overwhelmed with weariness of fighting for self-control and I go to my parents and I am reminded afresh of the power of the gospel and that I do not have to go through this alone. God is here with me and He will give me all the help I need. Now I understand that it might feel embarrassing to talk to your mom about this. But it doesn’t have to be. Your parents love you and want to be there for you. They know how you feel and they want to help. Please take advantage of the God-given gift of Christian parents. And if you don’t have Christian parents, I suggest going to another mature Christian woman for help.

Psalm 73:25-26 says, “Whom have I in heaven but you? And there is nothing on earth I desire besides you. My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.” Even if I fail, God never does. I have no strength in and of myself. But with God all things are possible . . . even getting over a crush. And Jesus is way more satisfying than any crush could ever be.