Fighting Attraction: Selfless Love

When we are attracted to a guy, it is so easy to let our emotions take control. We might think that we must do something to get his attention. I find it amazing that so much sin could be revealed when I like a guy! Pride, selfishness, envy, discontentment, and anxiety to name a few!

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. – 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 ESV)

I wrote these two questions to evaluate our hearts on the matter of selfless love:

1. When the guy I like talks to any other girl, am I quick to be envious that he would talk to her instead of me? (Love Does Not Envy – 1 Corinthians 13:4)

2. Am I trusting God to provide what I need when I need it, or do I want things to happen when and how I desire them to? (Love does not insist on its own way – 1 Corinthians 13:5)

Are either one of these things true of you? I am guilty or both! They are many more questions you could ask yourself (read the verses from 1 Corinthians 13 again). We will never be able to be perfect in love. But, by the grace of God, we have the opportunity to learn what true love is now and put in into practice with our family and friends!

Let’s choose to love selflessly no matter the circumstances. This is a good time to learn now before we enter into marriage. I need to learn how to selflessly love my brother and sister. I must confess that I so often fall short of this but, God uses my shortcomings to remind me that I need HIM to help me! Another way is to watch others. Watch your parents and other married couples in the church. This is just one way to focus on others rather then focus on your desires and wants at the present time.

To echo a couple things that Bronte said in her post, it helps so much to share these things with your parents. They have been through crushes before and are wise as they are older than we are. It is also a good thing to remember that the guy you like is most likely going to be married to someone else. This often helps me! One last thing. Remember the work that Christ has done for you on the cross! He has shown the only perfect of selfless love! To Him be the Glory!

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.” -Galatians 5:22-23 (ESV)

 

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