Summer Temptations: Immodesty

Summer is a time when we see immodestly all around us. At the mall. At the pool. Pretty much everywhere we go. Sadly, we even see it in the church. Take a look at our culture–immodesty is the cultural norm. Really, what difference does it make if I dress immodestly? Why should I even bother trying when so many other women around me choose to dress immodestly.

These questions are ones I have wrestled through. Why should I even bother? Does it really matter? It does matter. Listen to what C.J. Mahaney says about modesty.

Modesty means propriety. It means avoiding clothes and adornment that are extravagant or sexually enticing. Modesty is humility expressed in dress. It is a desire to serve others, particularly man, by not promoting or provoking sensuality.

Here are a couple of things to consider:

1) Modesty cares for and protects our brothers in Christ.

When we choose to dress immodestly, we are seeking to draw attention to ourselves. It by no means serves our brothers in Christ when we show up to church or to any event, dressed in a low top and a short skirt. As sisters in Christ, we are called to care for our brothers in Christ, not causing them stumble. As Paul tells us in Romans 14, “Therefore let us not pass judgment on one another any longer, but rather decide never to put a stumbling block or hindrance in the way of a brother.” Although this passage is specifically talking about food, it applies to modesty as well. Every time a woman dresses immodestly, a man struggles with lustful thoughts. It causes him to stumble, putting a hinderance on his relationship with the Lord. Let us not cause our brothers to stumble! Modesty should be the way we dress wherever we are and whomever we are with.

2) Modesty reveals a humble and self-controlled heart, a heart that trusts in the Lord.

When we choose to go against the tide of the world and dress modestly, we are cultivating humility instead of pride. We are dependent on the Lord for his attention above the attention of man. This attitude of heart glorifies the Lord and shows that we value his approval above the approval of the world. Praise God for the grace he gives so freely!

Now, here are a few great resources we’d like to direct you towards that have been helpful to all three of us.

1) Remember the Worldliness book study last year? Well C.J. Mahaney had a great chapter in this book entitled, “God, My Heart, and Clothes”. It has been very helpful to me! Click HERE to visit a past post for the download of this chapter.

2) The Rebelution had a modesty survey a couple of years ago. Thousands of guys wrote in on what causes them to stumble. It is very helpful. You can visit that site HERE.

3) Girl Talk has a very helpful pamphlet called the Modesty Heart check that is great to take along to the clothing store. It has several questions to ask yourself before purchasing a clothing item. You can read about and download the Modesty Heart check HERE.

4) One of the best resources is your dad. Get your dad’s opinion on what is modest. Get his approval on what you wear. He is a guy after all and knows the struggle. This is the best way and it honors your dad when you consider what he thinks.

Lastly, please don’t fall into legalism about modesty. Modesty does not earn our way to heaven, that work has already been done. Seek Christ and pray when you have questions. Seek the wisdom of older women who have gone before you. Most importantly, keep your eyes on Christ crucified. May the Lord be glorified!

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