Worldliness: A (Late) Conclusion

This has been a long time in coming but here is  the conclusion to our Worldliness book study.

Honostly, I went into this book with a  self-righteousness attitude. I didn’t think I was worldly. I dress modestly, I listen to good music, I watch good movies. But God humbled me with the relization that I have worldliness in my heart. When I desire to impress others with what I wear (even though it’s modest) that’s worldliness. When I desire to be in the world, when I desire to be like everyone else, that’s worldliness. Wow.

The good news is, God gives grace to fight sin. He will give me the grace I need (the grace we all need) to fight the remaining sin in our life, no matter how subtle it is. Praise God for this truth!

I don’t know how many of you read the book, but we hope you were helped and encouraged. We hope this study was a means of grace to you.

Thanks so much for your patience with us! 🙂


The Modesty Survey

The  Modesty Survey is something The Rebelution did a year or two ago. Girls wrote in and asking various questions about modesty and what guys find to be “stumbling blocks.” And then hundreds of guys wrote in with their responses.

We found this really helpful! Check it out!

How to Love the World: Discussion Questions

Here are the discussion question for the last chapter in Worldliness: Resisting the Seduction of a Fallen World intitled How to Love the World (taken from the back of the book.)

For Your Mind

1) Can you relate to this chapter’s description of “the Christian life by negation”? Do you think of the Christian life primarily in terms of what what you’re not supposed to do? How do John 3:16 and John 17:15-18 counteract this tendancy?

2) If we think of the world’s history as a story, what are the four main movements in the plotline, as this chapter presents them?

3) What three tasks enable us to “love the world” in a God-glorifying way?

For your Heart

1) Read Galatians 6:14. Does Paul’s perspective govern the way you view each area of your life (your identity, relationships, activities)? What difference should the gospel make in these areas?

2) Are you more excited about your own accompishments, career, hobbies, or leisure time than about the glorious story of redemption? How might your perspectives on these things change if you viewed them as part of God’s program in the world?

3) This chapter notes that God holds up his church as Exhibit A for the reality of the gospel. Does this grand vision govern your attitude toward your own local church?

For your Life

1) Think of one part of your work, education, leisure, or home life that seems insignificant or outside God’s notice. How does the truth that Christ is redeeming all of creation and restoring it to himself change the way you think about this area?

2) Are you actively involved and serving in your local church? If not, what practical steps can you take to contribute to your church’s missions?

3) Think about the non-Christians you know. Do you take serisouly the fact that they were made in the image of God? Do you also consider their current position before God, deserving of his eternal wrath? How might these twin realities motivate you to share the gospel with them?

There you have it! The last batch of discussion questions! Wow.

But we’re not done yet. Join us next week as we explore a little more deeply the themes of this book and then we will (Lord willing) wrap up our book study on Friday.

Have a great weekend!

God, My Heart, and Clothes: Discussion Questions

Sorry we’re a little late. Here are the discussion questions taken from the back of Worldliness: Resisting the Seduction of a Fallen World.

For your Mind:

1) Read Timothy 2:3-10. What do these verses say about the motivation for modest dress?

2) How do we know that 1 Timothy 2:9 does not prohibit women from making themselves beautiful?

3) How do women who dress modestly serve men?

For your Heart:

1) Who are you trying to imitate or identify with through your appearance–godly women, or women of the world?

2) This chapter notes that your wardrobe is a public statement of your personal and private motivation. What does your clothing communicate about your motivations and priorities?

3) Think of a woman who is admired for her godly character and good works. What aspects of her godliness do you particularly want to imitate?

For your Life:

1) What about your wardrobe may need to change so that your appearance can better reflect the transforming power of the gospel?

2) What steps can you take on your next shopping trip to ensure that your clothing purchases reflect humility, modesty, and self-control? (Some ideas: Pray for God’s help and provision in finding modest clothing; check each article of clothing you try on for modesty as well as fit; ask your father, husband, or a trusted friend to evaluate items you’re not sure about.)

3) Mothers, what steps can you take to train your daughters to value godliness over fashion, to nurture humility and self-control, and to wear clothing that reflects these virtues? Fathers, what steps can you take to care for and lead your daughters in humility, self-control, and modesty?

Now we can begin the sixth and final chapter: “How to love the World.” Please join us as we take a look into this chapter in the weeks to come!

Immodesty in the Heart

In my pride I expected to be able to read chapter 5 in Worldliness entitled “God, my Heart, and Clothes” with little to no conviction. I mean come on I dress modestly. Even if I wanted to dress immodestly my dad would never let me out of the house.

But as I was reading I realized how immodesty has less to do with what I wear and more about where my heart is. This is such a humbling realization! I became acutely aware of how often I try to impress others with what I wear. As I buy clothes (or even get dressed in the morning) I tend to have a man-centered view more than a God-centered one. Instead of asking myself if I am bringing God glory through the way I’m dressing I usually wonder what “so-and-so” will think. I can dress modestly but still have an immodest attitude. Seeking attention through what I wear is wrong whether or not I dress immodestly.

I thank God that He has revealed this to me and I pray He will continue to turn my heart more towards Him and less to man. Thank God for His neverending grace!

Worldliness: God, My Heart, and Stuff

imagesWelcome to the discussion on the fourth chapter of Worldliness: Resisting the Seduction of a Fallen World. To learn more about what this group is, click HERE. We also recently started a FACEBOOK page! Click HERE to visit this site. It is NEVER to late to join!! To join, send an email to

I want to encourage all of you to not just read these questions and move on. Please take the time to answer them on paper and to prayerfully consider whether any of these things can apply to your life. So without further ado, here are the questions.

For Your Mind:

Q: Covetousness is a word we don’t often use in normal conversation. What does it mean?

A: Mr. Harvey describes covetousness as the following:

“Covetousness as a glutton for stuff. Through covetous attractions and distractions within the heart, our stuff takes on meaning in our lives far beyond what God intends. Covetousness is choosing earthly trinkets over eternal treasure.” -Dave Harvey

Q: How is it that we can be covetous whether we’re rich, poor, or anywhere in between?

A: It is humbling because no matter our financial status, we are always desiring more. I have seen this all too many times in my own life. When I don’t have any money, I covet. When I do have money, I covet as well. We will never be truly satisfied in life until we realize that we must be completely satisfied in Jesus Christ alone. When we are covetous, we are saying that Jesus is not enough to satisfy us. True to be told…He is enough, He is more than enough. We must seek to be satisfied in Him before we see a decreasing desire for things of this world.

Q: How does the gospel specifically speak to the bondage of covetousness and materialism?

A: When we have the truth of the Gospel, there is no room for condemnation, or guilt over sin. If you have been convicted over sin in ths area, don’t let you response be one of condemnation. The only right response is to worship God and glorify His name because we have been set free from sin’s power over us (Galatians 5:1).

For your Heart:

Q: Christ died to free you from loving stuff too much. What excites you about this truth? How should it influence our daily lives?

A: Knowing that even after confessing sin I will mess up again, it excites me to know that Jesus Christ shed His blood because I am sinful. So not only are my sins covered and paid for but, when the HOLY God of the universe looks at me, He sees the perfection of His Son. This is amazing truth. I am so unworthy of His critic let alone His love! It should influence my life if I daily die to myself, my desires, and my cravings and when I mess up I look and see my Savior who died for me. This will bring true and satisfying joy.

For the most of the rest of the questions, you guys can answer them on your own and remember to apply them and not just let it rest. Don’t be content with knowing…ACT!

Q: Describe a person you know who is regularly generous. How does this person reflect the eternal perspective of the gospel as he or she lets go of treasured possessions to benefit someone else? When was teh last time God was so big for you that you let go of tresured possessions?

Q: Are you giving regularly and generously to your local church? Describe why this is important to you, or what it is not your practice at present.

For Your Life:

Q: This chapter notes that when the gospel gets bigger, covetouness becomes weak. Reread John Owen’s quote on page 108. What does it mean to fill your affections with the cross and love of Christ?

A: I am going to put the quote below:

“When someone sets his affections upon the cross and love of Christ, he crucifies the world as a dead and undesirable thing. The baits of sin lose their attaction and disappear. Fill your affections with teh cross of Christ and you will find no room for sin.”

Q: When this chapter points out that embracing covetousness can be a private sin, but casting it off should be a group project project. Who will you enlist to cast off covetousness?

A: It is SOOOO important to have someone that will hold you accountable to sin and help you bring it into the light. If you are a teen, I highly suggest asking your parents to help you in this area. They see a us sin often and know us better than we sometimes know ourselves (Sin is deceptive!). Bronte and I just started our own accountablility time last month and this has already helped me.

Q: Parents, what steps can you take to train your children to share geneously with others?

A: Well, I don’t think we have many readers that are parents but, for those of you who are parents…I have no ideas for you! 🙂 I am sure that in your wisdom you can consult others for the answer.

Join us JUNE 5TH for a timely dicussion on the area of Modesty! Thanks for reading guys!

Worldliness: God, My Heart, and Music

Discussion Questions: (taken from the book Worldliness: Resisting the Seduction of a Fallen World)

For Your Mind:

1. What indications do we have from the Bible that God likes music?

2. Why can’t we create a list of artists or music styles that every Christian should listen to or avoid.

3. What do we mean when we say that music carries content, context, and culture?

For your Heart:

1. How important is music to you? Are you easily irritated when you aren’t hearing the music you prefer? Are you more passionate about a concert than participation in your local church? More excited about the latest album than about the truth that Christ has saves you?

2. Does the music you listen to lead you to love the Savior more, or does it cause your affection for Christ to diminish.

3. Whose musical tastes are you most tempted to critique or look down on?

For your Life:

1. Do you own music that you’ll listen to only if you backslide? If so, what reasons do you give for holding onto it?

2. As Harold Best points out, “There is no single chosen language or artistic or musical style that, better than all the others, can capture and repeat back the fullness of the glory of God.” What is one thing you can do to broaden your musical taste?

3. Next Saturday night or Sunday morning, prepare for your church’s Sunday meeting by taking time to thank the Lord for his gift of music and for those he’s provided to lead your church in worship. What are some ways you can prepare your heart and join wholeheartedly when your church gathers for worship?

Three weeks from now we will post the discussion questions from Chapter 4.

Thanks everyone!

Updates and Book Recommendations

I believe that we need to slow down the book study and take it even slower. This is for two reasons. I think that we need more time to read and study each chapter. Life is very busy and two weeks go by very fast!! The other reason is because all three of us girls have been very busy. We all manage at least one other blog in addition to this one. We need to make school work and helping in our home and in our church the highest priority. So please bear with us during this busy stage of life.

Two ways you can help us are below:

  1. PRAY. Pray for wisdom for us as we discern what to blog about and that the Lord would give us words to speak what He is calling us to say.
  2. We need you to get involved! Would you please consider sharing how the Lord has saved you? When I read other blogs, I love to read stories of others and how they were saved. They encourage me in my faith. We love our readers input!!!!! Please, PLEASE take the time to share any ideas or posts that you would like to see on our blog. You can do this via commenting or sending an email to

That being said, I thought that it would be fun to each of us to share our favorite books and then for you to share your favorite ones with us. So today, I (Becca) am going to give you my book recommendations.

41i9dgebtcl_sl500_aa240_Keeping The Heart: By John Flavel

I just started reading this wonderful puritan book a week or so ago. It is SO, SO, SO good!!! I highly recommend it! I am six pages into it and already I have been convicted by my sin and encouraged by the Gospel. Our hearts are at the bottom of every sin that we face and give into. What comes out of our mouths, reveals what is in our heart. Wow! John Flavel takes time to share how we can preserve the heart from sin only by the grace of God (we will mess up a lot-Praise God for the Gospel!).

“It is observes of an eminent saint, that when he was confessing sin, he would never give over confessing until he had felt brokeness of heart over that sin; and when praying for any spiritual mercy, would never give over that suit till he had obtained some relish of that mercy” -John Flavel

41k5f190ghl_sl500_aa240_The Mortification of Sin: By John Owen

I finished this book just last week. It is VERY good!!! I also highly suggest getting and reading this one! John Owen brings a seriousness to sin that I often don’t experience. It is to be dealt with. Know what circumstances tempt you and avoid them! We must slay sin so that we may become less and Christ more! This is the amazing work of Sanctification! The Gospel was spoken clearly in this book and that is very needed in a book that revealed so much sin in my life. If not for the grace of God, I would have no hope. Praise the Lord that we do have hope! What a Savior!

“It is to be feared that many Christians have little knowledge of the main enemy that they carry about them in their hearts” “Be killing sin or it will be killing you” -John Owen

images1Respectable Sins: By Jerry Bridges

I read this book around a year ago. It is very good and definatly worth buying and reading. Mr. Bridges takes about the sins that we easily excuse such as Anxiety, Ungodliness, Unthankfulness, Pride, Selfishness, Discontentment to name a few. It was so convicting! I read it with our parent-youth small group last year and so we did the discussion questions as well. In fact, buy the disscussion book!

“The primary purpose of this book is to help us face the presence of many of these subtle sins in our lives and to recognize the fact that, to a large degree, they have become acceptable to us. We tolerate them in our lives with hardly a second thought. That makes them more dangerous because, in addition to the basic sin itself, they can open the door of our hearts to greater sin. Discontentment, for example can easily lead to resentment or bitterness toward God or other people. – Jerry Bridges”

Well, that is three books of many more that I love! In the near future, Bronte and Grace will both be posting their favorite books. Thank you for your extreme patience!

We will be posting in between each discussion of Worldliness each month. By the grace of God, Lord willing we will post about some topics that you (our readers) share with us via email or comments.

Join us on this coming Friday (April 3rd) as we discuss together the questions from the 3rd chapter of Worldliness: God, My Heart, and Music.

In His amazing grace,

Becca for the Innominables

Worldliness: God, My Heart, and the Media

Discussion Question taken from “Worldliness” on chapter two:

For your Mind:

1. Why is no one immune to the media today?

2. As this chapter notes, hardly any discussion of media standards gets far before someone cries “Legalism!” What is legalism? What is the only possible solution to legalism?

3. What does it mean to live coram Deo?

For your Heart:

1. How are you tempted to watch passively or with a sense of immunity as you serf the Internet or watch TV or films?

2. In what way can you cultivate a greater awareness that every film, TV show, and Internet page you see is “before the face of God”?

3.  When you “need a break,” are you more likely to reach for the remote? Fellowship with God and other believers? Something else?

For your Life:

1. This chapter explains that God-pleasing discernment involves remembering his grace to us in the death and resurrection of our Savior, and responding to his grace with a heart eager to please him bt taking pleasure in what is good and right and true. How will this truth effect your decision about the next movie you watch?

2. If you limited your media choices to what was actually benificial (as opposed to just permissable, would your viewing habbits change? If so, how?

3. Does anyone know what you watch, how much you watch, and specific areas in which you are tempted? If not, whom ca you seek biblical accountability from?

Now we want to point out that  it’s not  inherintly wrong to watch TV or movies, entertainment and leasure are gifts from God. But the danger is when we watch or listen or read thoughtlessly. Are we considering whether the content is appropriate? Are we considering what worldview is being presented? Are we considering how much time we’re spending on the media? Are we considering it’s effect on us? Are we watching in a worshipful way that expresses gratatude and appriciation to God for His good gifts? 

Worldiness: Is This Verse in Your Bible?

imagesWelcome to the very first discussion on the first chapter of Worldliness: Resisting the Seduction of a Fallen World. To learn more about what this group is, click HERE. We also recently started a FACEBOOK page! Click HERE to visit this site. It is NEVER to late to join!! To join, send an email to

Well guys, it is February 20th. I applaud all of you for the grace that is evident in your life by taking this step to learn about resisting worldliness! Not many people would join a group like this.

I want to encourage all of you to not just read these questions and move on. Please take the time to answer them on paper and to prayerfully consider whether any of these things can apply to your life. So without further ado, here are the questions.

For Your Mind:

1: When the apostle John warns us, “Do not love the world or anything in the world” (1 John 2:15 NIV), what does he mean by “the world”?

2: Why is this warning relevant for every Christian?

3: How does 1 John 2:15-16 turn our focus away for externals to the matters of the heart?

For Your Heart:

4: Can you relate to any of these reasons for neglecting Scripture’s command not to love the world?

  • “Resisting worldliness” is just another way to say “out of touch.”
  • I can’t evangelize the world if I don’t relate to the world
  • No one has the right to tell me how much of the world I can take.
  • My friends need this book more than I do.
  • I’m not tempted to worldliness because I go to church-in fact, I attend Sunday meetings and a small group every week.
  • If I think too seriously about it, I might have to let go some things that I enjoy. (My biggest reason!)

5: Is your Christian life marked by increasing love for the Savior? Or was there a time when you were consistently more passionate for God, and more characterized by extravagant devotion and love for the church, then you are now? If the latter, why do you think this has happened?

6: What are you passionate about? What preoccupies you when your time and thoughts are your own?

For Your Life:

7: Is there something in the world you’re presently attracted to or pursuing? It’s probably whatever you have been thinking about as you read this chapter. If, so, how can you seek accountability and help from a godly friend, parent, or pastor?

8: As this chapter points out, the antidote to worldliness is the cross of Jesus Christ. This is why Charles Spurgeon’s counsel to “dwell where the cries of calvary can be heard” is so valuable. What does Spurgeon man by this? What is one way that you can begin to follow his advice?

*These questions are taken from the back of the book, Worldliness in the discussion questions section*

Throughout the next two weeks leading up to the discussion of the second chapter (God, My Heart, and Media) we will be posting more ways that we have been convicted and how we can put to practice what we are being taught.

Join us on MARCH 6TH for the discussion questions for chapter two: God, My Heart, and Media by Craig Cabaniss.

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